A friend in recovery shared this little bit of wisdom with me about what to think about when sharing my thoughts or opinions. It came in the context of me being concerned about whether or not I was “sharing” too much at meetings. I think I will use this philosophy when deciding about sharing my thoughts or opinions in life in general:
- Does it need to be said?
- Does it need to be said now?
- Does it need to be said by me?
It’s simple and just makes sense. If I can answer yes to these three questions then I should. If I can’t answer yes to all three then I shouldn’t. What I like about this is that it doesn’t mean that I can never express my thought or opinion, it just gives me a moment to think about my intentions and maybe avoid some pain and embarrassment.